“Working on the right thing is probably more important than working hard.” — Caterina Fake
In a recent short video, Jordan Harbinger from The Art of Charm discussed how being busy can destroy your creativity. Whether we’re conscious of it or not, we often let ‘busyness’ impede our creativity.
Jordon says busy people tend to be easily manipulated, because in large part “being busy” typically makes you very easy to manipulate in the first place. You’re distracted, and distracted people get taken advantage of.
He says sometimes it’s accidental, or a matter of circumstance. You need to really watch out when it happens deliberately though. People will try to make you feel like you need them in order to be successful. It becomes easier for them to make you feel like it’s your duty to take care of them, and the distractions of ‘busyness’ essentially turn you into a pushover.
Jordan says these moves are a power plays people will use to get their own way. You’ll feel like you have to say yes, yes, yes, and if you don’t you’ll have to deal with emotional blackmail. You roll right over and agree to everything other people want you to do. It becomes a habit of giving all our energy to other people, leaving none, or very little, for ourselves. Your obligations to other people pile up and you get busier and busier until you become more of pushover and your willpower is just sapped away from being so busy all the time.
The only way to escape this cycle, according to Jordan, is to start saying no. He says this is harder than is sounds or you’d have probably done this long ago. You can take the AoC challenge, where you’ll learn how to be self-aware enough to reject busyness and busy work. You can also view his full comments here.